Educating The Whole Human

Updated: Mar 31

February 24th, 2021

Lucy Mills


When people talk or think about education or educating children, they mostly think about areas of children's development and learning such as literacy, math, science, technology and the multitude of other subjects within the educational system. These are obviously very important but the one area that is just as important to a child's growth and well being is how to be a human, a good, well balanced, caring and understanding human.

When writing something like this, I feel it only fair to supply people with information about myself so that they understand where or why I have gained my ‘opinions’.

I am a Supervisor at one of Coded-Minds programs, but my experience and qualifications are varied. In England I was a Clinical Hypnotherapist and NLP Counsellor (Neuro Linguistic Programming). In Canada I studied in Childcare Education to the highest level 3 and qualified to American Hypnotist. I was also a ski instructor in Europe and taught many groups of children ranging from 7 - 16 years of age and I have volunteered for over 8 years with the RCMP in the Victims Service and ran a Theatre group for both Adults and children (the children were most fun !) I also did a Conflict Resolution.

But back to the important stuff! Children! - how can we help them to become the humans we would like to be surrounded by?

As an educator having worked with children as young as 2 years of age, it is my opinion that it is our duty and responsibility to help children through many situations and teach them life skills. Each child is an individual and so it has to be a priority to get to know that child, so that we can understand better what ‘that’ child needs and how he or she copes. This will most never be the same for each child.

I have known many adults with exceptionally high qualifications, but their people skills have been virtually non-existent. For most of us, (even with the Covid-19 circumstance) it is human interaction that can be as difficult as the job. As we become adults, it is our life/people skills that we learnt as a child that can greatly affect our day to day life

This is not something that can be dealt with in one blog so I will start with just two elements - empathy and communication and maybe I will get a chance to write further another time on ‘educating the whole human’. Firstly - children are not born with empathy. They are born with the capacity to have empathy, but it only develops under certain conditions.

One example I often share is one I observed at a daycare in the toddlers room. One toddler was sitting quietly when another toddler chose to bump him on the head with a stuffy bear. The victim cried and so the toddler repeated the action, laughing. As I went to rescue the victim, a third toddler grabbed the stuffy and bumped it over the offenders head. The offender turned and started to cry, while watching the third toddler hug the first victim. The offender then went and hugged his victim too. It was amazing to see that the third toddler had shown empathy and brought out empathy in the first little offender by giving him a taste of his own medicine. Maybe actions were used as at his stage he didn't have the words to say.